A few things have happened over the past week and it’s some things that I just can’t let go…They have stayed on my mind so I wanted to share them with you in hopes that after reading this, you can share this message and do something positive for yourself and others today.

In the past 10 days three young adults (one in high school and 2 college-aged) have committed suicide. It is so tragic and sad and my heart goes out to their families. And my heart also goes out to those young adults who felt their only way to cope was escape. Suicide has happened in my family, twice. My aunt when I was in 5th grade and my cousin just last year. It is unimaginable the place people are in to follow-through with their intention of dying.

I also heard of a few instances of bullying that have happened on playgrounds and soccer fields in my town with young kids in elementary school. I talked about it on my FB live video this morning but the sound wasn’t cooperating…

https://www.facebook.com/amy.smalarz/videos/vb.1013173351/10208803609860243/?type=2&theater

I don’t buy into the excuse of “kids will be kids.” Honestly, I think it’s bullshit. Kids can be mean because either people are mean to them at home or no one tells them it’s not okay to be mean to others. Kids aren’t born mean but they sure as hell are taught to be mean. And in my rant, I mean video, this morning, I shared some thoughts:

  • As adults, we are leaders – in our homes, in our community, in school, on the soccer field, everywhere. We set the tone and the example.
  • It’s up to us to treat others with respect and make sure everyone else does the same.
  • It’s on us to not condone stupid behavior and foster and emulate positive behavior.

My friends and I were talking about this yesterday and we agree that people who are bullies or who are mean to others have their own issues they are trying to deal with. They may be scared, feel unworthy or sad. So when someone is mean, instead of being mean back you can ask “What made you feel the need to say or do that?”

A simple question but one many of us don’t ask.

Well, I think it’s time we ask. I think it’s time we take responsibility for ourselves and those around us. We should pick each other up, not tear each other down!

Melodramatic? Maybe. But tell that to the child who gets bullied. Tell that to the person who sits alone, ignored. Tell that to the person who just wants someone to be nice or given a smile. Tell that to the person who is afraid to not be perfect.

So, if you see something negative, say something about it. If you see something positive, say something. No, shout and get excited – and ask for more!

I would like to live in a civilized society…how about you?