I learned a very valuable lesson today: while people may not agree with you, each of us has an opportunity to share your voice, give your opinion and if you don’t, well, you missed your shot. And even if your voice is pushed down, discarded or just not heard, you acted and that’s what counts.
Let me give you a bit more of a description of a situation I was in this morning and then I will let you be the judge.
Like many of you, I am a member of a few groups on Facebook; some are public and others are closed. In one of those groups there was a post where the person shared their desire to have more time…more time in the day, more time with their family, more time with their friends, more time for themselves…more time. Now, how many of you can relate to that ask? If you are like many people I know and work with, you nodded your head when I asked because you ask for more time every day.
But here is where it gets interesting. I wrote a reply something along the lines of: “I know a lot of us wish for more time and there are ways to bring more time into your day.” And then I took it a step further to say that if folks wanted to get together for coffee, tea or drinks that I’d be happy to be part of a conversation with the group and we could share ideas, tips, etc. for what works to get more time into our days. Well, I will give you one guess as to how that went over…Yup, you guessed right – not very well. I should have seen the response coming: If I wanted a therapist, I would pay for one…and a few other things as well.
And therein lies my great learning point for today – it’s hard for me to turn off my listening and offering to help as opposed to just listening. I’m not a good one for joining a pity party. I’m err on the side of emphathizing and then taking action, even if it’s just transforming the negative thought into a positive one. And not everyone is like that. Sometimes people just want to get something off their chest and want to sit and have other people agree – and then they all sit together…hoping…wishing…wanting something else. It’s one thing to empathize but it’s another to say woe is me – and then keep doing the same thing.
I obviously struck a nerve but I’m okay with that. I didn’t suggest anything self destructive or even harmful but my words triggered a response. And I was not in the majority of folks on that post because many people agreed and shared other areas they wished they had more time in. My voice very different from the rest – but that’s what makes me, well, me. So, I am closing this Blog Post today with a quote from a friend and colleague, Jane Barlow Christensen as it spoke very loudly to me today!