Yes, I believe that Beauty is in the eye of the beholder (and not a cliche or what you say if you think someone is unattractive). It’s a glow, a shine, a presence that you cannot look away from. Someone who is beautiful, truly beautiful, draws you in and helps you to shine, too.
There is also another definition of Beauty that I came across over the weekend while finishing Glennon Doyle Melton’s latest book Love Warrior.
Beautiful means ‘full of beauty.’ Beautiful is not about how you look on the outside. Beautiful is about what you’re made of. Beautiful people spend time discovering what their idea of beauty on this earth is. They know themselves well enough to know what they love, and they love themselves enough to fill up with a little of their particular kind of beauty each day.” (pp 253-254)
And she goes onto write:
You will meet plenty of people who are pretty but haven’t yet learned how to be beautiful. They will have the right look for the times but they will not glow. Beautiful women glow. When you are with a beautiful women you might not notice her hair or skin or body or clothes, because you’ll be distracted by the way she makes you feel. (p. 254)
These passages (as well as so many others) really spoke to me. “It’s what you’re made of” – I absolutely love that because I try to teach that to my boys every day. It’s not about having the ‘right’ clothes but it’s about having a positive character. It’s about sitting with the kid who is by herself at lunch. It’s about helping out the new kid at school and showing him where to put his backpack and where the bathroom is. It’s the seemingly simple things that so many people don’t do…overlook or take for granted.
Brining it back, I truly believe Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I work to share a little bit of Beauty every day.
So, what is your definition of Beauty?