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Yesterday I read a post titled Everything Doesn’t Happen for a Reason. I had some immediate reactions to this post – which was a sign for me to not write about it immediately 🙂

This is a longer pieces so set aside a few minutes to read it as it isn’t a quick read. It is also well written. There are a lot of quotes I could address but I will just tackle one of them in this post today and it reads:

I hate to break it to you, but although devastation can lead to growth, it often doesn’t. The reality is that it often destroys lives.


I have faced loss in my life and I allowed myself time to grieve – and every human being needs time to grieve. It’s part of who we are and how we heal. But I also believe that things do happen for a reason – and it’s not my place to judge WHY it happened but instead to think about WHAT my positive actions can be when faced with a particular situation.

There is no need to escape grieving but part of the reality is that there are some things out of our control – and we get overwhelmed when we have the misconception that we have control of absolutely everything. The only thing we have complete control of is ourselves: how we act, what we say, what we do and what we choose. Yes, we have choices – and we make hundreds, even thousands of them everyday.

Devastation, on many levels, can and often does lead to growth. Merely surviving is a form of growth in and of itself. But saying it destroys lives is a cop out. It is the choice of the person to lead themselves to destruction.

When faced with a challenge or a loss it is a true test of our character, our mindset and our willingness to Grind it out – to stay standing, to stand tall and proud. I’m not saying it’s easy – because it’s not. But giving into negative thoughts, feelings, etc. is a choice – not a destiny.