Have you ever felt like you had a split personality? One minute you like being in a group but the next minute you feel claustrophobic and just want to escape? You have some close friends and have a lot of energy around them but if you are in a bigger crowd, your energy is drained. And small talk?!?! Yikes! There’s a show stopper for me…
If you have ever felt this way, you are definitely not alone. A friend of mine shared a Blog post with me: How Extroverted Introverts Interact Differently With The World and I had to share it with you.
And to give you a flavor of the post, here are a couple of my favorite quotes:
You’ll connect with people very easily, that’s not the problem. Here’s the thing, when you meet with someone, you’ll go out of your way to make them feel comfortable and happy, but it takes you a while to feel fully comfortably, so you can only take being around others incrementally.
You hate traditional systems. You notice details that others don’t. You loathe the concept of how things “should be” – from the structure of our educational system to certain “rites of passage.” You think about everything – maybe a little too much. But it’s in your intolerability of “what’s supposed to be” that you innovate your own life.
Honestly, I could quote the whole article because I see so much of myself reflected in it. But here’s the really special part – even if you don’t feel this way, I would guess you know 1, 2 or 10 people who work and feel this way. So, while you think someone is being antisocial or never answers their phone, it might be that being in a larger group is exhausting and sometimes scary and overwhelming. It could be that while they truly value your friendship, they like to text or talk in person.
For those of you who relate to this article, I hope you take a few minutes to read it. And for those who think I’m crazy or have people in your life you think are crazy, please take a few minutes to read it. For all of us, we will learn something and like my dad always says “You learn something new every day if you aren’t careful!”